Monday, April 15, 2013

Living (and Writing)

There's a song by Revive called "Blink" with these lyrics in the chorus:

"It happens in a blink, it happens in a flash
It happens in the time it took to look back
I try to hold on tight, but there's no stopping time
What is it I've done with my life?"

Each time I hear the song, I'm challenged. What is it I'm doing? Am I taking time? Am I absorbing the little things?

Because I know I can't stop time . . . and it's the little things, when strung together, that truly are the big things.

So perhaps that's why I'm not the kind of writer who will ever say, "I need to write." I'll repeat that in case you read it too fast. I will not say, "I need to write."

Yes, I really did just admit that.

Because what I need to do is live.

Laugh with my kids. Admire a budding tree. Sit on my front stoop in the sun. Watch football with my husband.

These moments are living. And writing? That's what I do in the other moments.

I'm not saying I always balance it perfectly, but I consciously work on it. What about you? How do you make sure your life doesn't get too tangled to simply live?

20 comments:

  1. I'm bad at this. I try to spend time with my kids, but writing is my addiction. I do though make time for them, because I won't be able to get this time back.

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  2. Great post. Balance is hard to achieve and impossible to maintain. Along with life come surprises and we can never truly coordinate everything. But living life is important, I try always to put family and life first, writing second. Maybe that's why it too me over three years to finish one MS.

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  3. Balancing is hard, because no matter what I choose to do, I often feel I'm doing the wrong thing. I observe how quickly my kids' childhoods are passing though, and so almost always put them first.

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  4. Love this post. I've been thinking about this a lot lately as I want to balance the social networking for more writing time and also I want more time to live like you and to just enjoy my family and new puppy.

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  5. I'm afraid I don't have much balance in my life right now. I'm working on it.

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  6. I have to remind myself to do just that--live first, write in the between times.

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  7. From my vantage point now with four young grandchildren, I know how fast time goes by! Their parents were this age just yesterday, weren't they? So I wholeheartedly agree--live first, love, laugh, enjoy. And then steal those free moments to write, even if it's only a few words. They will add up...:-)

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  8. I'm not a 'need to write' person either. I go in spurts. I really enjoy writing, but it's not all consuming to me.

    Does that make me a 'bad' writer? I don't know, but it makes me a happy one :)

    Left and Write

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  9. Lovely, Barbara. I really liked, These moments are living. And writing? That's what I do in the other moments."

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  10. Thank you for this beautiful, inspiring post Barbara. I really needed to read this. ;) Speaking of family....I loved reading your daughter's interview on Literary Rambles today! How wonderful!

    I'm printing this post. ;)

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  11. Time really is way too elusive to not enjoy those "smaller" moments more often! I have such a hard time remembering this sometimes, since I often get obsessed with art to the point where I forget to relax and enjoy everything else life has to offer...

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  12. Oh my gosh...you have me a major goosebumps (and heart thump) moment when you said...I need to live. I swear you made me slow down...thank you.

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  13. Thank you for a beautiful and inspiring post Barbara.

    ~Akoss

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  14. What a beautiful post! Well said and I love the picture. Each day I sit on my porch and try to appreciate and notice all the changes around me. When I am with people I spend time in the moment (I don't even use a cell phone- but only have one for emergencies). :) Enjoy each moment!
    ~Jess

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  15. Great post . . . it's the same message I tried to portray in 18 Things. God keeps me grounded and asking those questions:-)

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  16. Thank you for the sweet reminder to cherish every day. When we realize that our days are ordered by God it is easier to have a thankful perspective. It is hard to keep that perspective with the busyness of our world and our days. When we stop to remember His loving and sovereign control it takes away the feeling of being rushed because all we have is this moment right now to use for His glory.

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  17. Balance is a hard time to achieve in life, but it is definitely something I strive for. I definitely agree, though, time just flies by and making the most of every moment is so important!

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  18. Lovely post. There've been times I felt I didn't need to write for a period, and other times where I know I'm better when I'm writing and therefore "need" to. I need those things you mention *more* than I need writing. But writing's pretty essential to me. I've always prefered to live at a slower pace and refuse to cram my calendar completely full.

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  19. I'm always struggling to find this balance. And to not snap at my kids when I'm trying to write because I don't want them to grow up hating that mommy was a writer. Yikes!

    I know that song very well, but never paused to think about the lyrics. Thank you!

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