Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Insecure Writer's Support Group: My First Post

After spotting the Insecure Writer's Support Group in the blogosphere over the summer, I thought, "What writer doesn't need that?" It doesn't matter if you're a published writer, an agented writer seeking publication, or a beginner on the writing journey because ALL writers suffer through the "what if my writing really sucks?" blues. Sometimes on a daily basis.

So displaying writing insecurities once a month sounds perfect to me. If you'd like to join, just grab the button and sign up here. Share whatever you're feeling insecure about, struggling with, or questioning in your writing. And other writers and friends will show up and strengthen your resolve to keep plugging. The Insecure Writer's Support Group 'meets' the first Wednesday of each month.

This month my insecurity lies in a BIG and overwhelming concept.

I have a middle grade manuscript that I love. It's not my first manuscript. In fact, it's my third. And I love, love, LOVE this story. The way I feel about it is much different than I did my first two stories. So much so that I wish the English language, like Greek, had variations of the word love so I could properly communicate what form of love I have for this story. Because it would fall somewhere close to agape.

But what if no one ever loves this story the way I do?

That's a daunting thought. And one I'm struggling with right now.

38 comments:

  1. Can so relate to that worry. I have a story I've been working on for 9 years. It's almost done and I'll have to query. But it could be one of those stories that just doesn't make it and then I have to move on. We have to hope we start a new project we love just as much.

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  2. That is a daunting thought and one I wish I had an answer or some comfort for. Unfortunatley good books go unpublished. But not because nobody liked them, because the market wasn't right or some other silly thing. Cold comfort when one's story is the one gathering dust. Still, you have to believe. Keep that special feeling you have for the book close to protect you from the hard times of querying. Then jump in, you'll never know unless you try.

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  3. C'mon, let's get a cup of coffee, and let me tell you how wonderful your story is. I don't know what it's about, but I know you're a fabulous writer. Kids will love it. Feel better?

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  4. I totally get that! But you know that. :)

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  5. I can relate to that. This is why querying is scary and it's so easy not to do it, for fear agents won't love the book the way you did.

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  6. Agape - I think you've got a marvelous description for how love can take you by surprise!

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  7. I had an ms like that, too. When I started querying I got positive feedback followed by a lot of buts. Discouragement followed, then I'd buoy myself again and remind myself how much I love it and how much I want it to be shared with the world so that they can decide for themselves.

    I'm excited to say you'll all be able to decide for yourself in 2013 when King of Bad is published. Someone else will love your ms as much as you. Probably lots of someone elses.

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  8. I always equate a new manuscript with sending my children off to school. There's no way any one will appreciate it/them as much as you do but maybe some people will come close and that's what you hold out for.

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  9. Ah, now you've done it! You've hit on one of the BIGGEST writer insecurities in the world. Here hoping that story finds a lot of readers who love it as much as you do. Hey, use Latin on this one and express how you feel.

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  10. If you love it THAT much, Barbara, I think others will too. :)

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  11. Hi Barbara! I'm a new follower via the IWSG. Welcome to the group!

    Your fear is universal to all writers. All I can say in response to your question -- what if no one ever loves this story the way I do? -- is, revise until they do love it.

    This takes time, patience, and hard work, but find yourself some tough critique partners and let 'em at it. I don't mean friends and family. I mean other writers, most of whom you DON'T know. This is the single best way to whip your ms into query-able shape. But having said that, the most important thing is that you love it. Good luck!!

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  12. I'm so glad you joined!! And I'm so glad you LOVE you recent MS!! If you love it so much, most likely others will too!!

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  13. I bet they will! I think when we love stories that much, it means there's an audience of readers just waiting to love it, too! :o) <3

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  14. You already know how I feel about your "preciousss", so I'm just going to give you a big {{{HUG}}} in addition to that.
    Just wait and see. People will love it. :)

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  15. Hi :)

    Just popping in from the IWSG :)

    Yep, I'm with you there honey, and I'm sure lots of others are too. It's VERY scary :(

    But, you'll never know until you try ;) Have you got some Beta readers lined up? Fingers crossed for you honey that your Beta readers WILL love it as much as you do :)

    Good luck!

    Xx



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  16. Welcome to the group and I know what you mean - it's a terrible dread that no one will 'get' my writing or voice or point... that it's all in my head and on paper it's crud. I'm presently doing the beta read thing for the first time and that is eye opeing to me, in a good way so far. :) I advise you get peeps to read your story.. see what they come up with. X

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  17. Hi Barbara, I'm visiting from IWSG.
    It is obvious that you are passionate about the story. That is most important. You have to believe in your story first, before anybody else will.

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  18. Have faith Barbara! You never know until you start getting it out there, which I think is a huge insecutity to overcome... for anyone. Putting your work out there.

    And this is just my personal thinking, but who cares if some people don't like it? All you need is that one agent/editor who does and then your story will find others who will love it like you do.

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  19. I have the same thought running through my mind. What is n one likes my story? What if no one likes my characters? What it, what if, what if! Such hard questions but ones I may never know the answer too.
    But, I love it and hopefully someone else will love it, too!
    nice to meet you through ISWG!

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  20. Welcome to the IWSG! Glad you joined us.
    Not everyone will love it, but that's all right. There will be many that do. And those are the people you focus on.

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  21. I'm guessing I know which ms this is, and I can say I LOVE it, so that's one more person who does! :)

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  22. Welcome *throws confetti* Well, hopefully must will remember the golden rules we grew up with . .. and if they don't have anything nice to say they won't say it at all. But I'll love it and that's all that matters, right;-) hahaha, we're all in the same boat--no worries--we'll make it through!

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  23. Thanks for the buoyant comments, all! I knew IWSG was going to awesome.

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  24. I love how you are just so open with your feelings. I agree. I finished a manuscript and I'm about to send it off to my agent. But what if he doesn't like it? What if no one else likes it? With writing we put so much heart and soul into each word.

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  25. Hello from a fellow GUTGAA participant.

    Yeah, I don't allow open drinks around my computer either. I have a small table off to my right for that and I have my water in a more or less spill-proof drinking bottle.

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  26. I think that if you love it, others will too!

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  27. Get some other readers and see what they think. If you love your story, I'll bet they'll be a good chance that others will like it too. Maybe they'll have suggestions that may change the focus of the story, but I'll bet that at least the core of the story will be good.

    Welcome to the IWSG.

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  28. Great post, Barbara. And I love the new writer's group that you found :) I think maybe all of us are already in it without knowing we are! I think the fact that you love this MS is reason enough to celebrate. It's the greatest joy and goal of a writer - write something YOU love. It's the best chance that your characters, your story, and your vision have of making it out into the world: a writer who wholly believes in them. I am SO excited to read your MS someday :)

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  29. Welcome to IWSG! Like everyone else has said... if you love it others are sure to love it too. But also if your anything like me, you HAVE to write it. It has to be heard.

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  30. I have this same fear. No matter how much I love a story, I can't help but think that no one else ever will, and that I should keep the characters in my head instead of bringing them to life on paper. It's a natural fear, I think, so even though it's one you're struggling with right now, hopefully you can take comfort in the fact that you're not the only one who feels this way and that the fear is simply that: a fear.

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  31. I know that fear, but you have to go with your gut. Because chances are, you have good taste, so it's as good as you think it is!

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  32. There may be some who don't love it as much as you hope, just as there will be those who DO love it like you, but these are the ones you are writing it for. Tell it for them :)

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  33. I know, that's always scary, and it's always a possibility. I think knowing that EVERY writer faces this helps. There's just no guarantee that anybody else will love our baby enough to commit.

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  34. Not to parrot everyone else, but--I do think that if the writer is passionate about their work, there will be others who will also fall in love with what they've written. :)

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  35. I'm new to IWSG too so you're not alone! I won't be posting my IWSG till October but still, I look forward to reading more of your writing insecurities! I'm here for ya :)

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  36. Hi Barbara, I can so relate to this thought and worry. I too write Middle Grade fiction and am currently undergoing the same worries.

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  37. I know what you mean. Although I write YA, I've also been hit by inspiration for a book unlike any other. And it is terrifying, but I probably won't ever enjoy writing another story as much as this one. Going to query the first part for GUTGAA. :-D

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  38. I love how you resort to Greek's multiple variations of love! I remember feeling that way about my first book. And then my second. And third and... yeah, you get the picture. Now I love that I have multiple stories in me that I can love... but yeah, I'm still way insecure about other people loving them. But then again, I don't expect everyone to love my kids. I don't know if it helps thinking of it that way or not, though :-)

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